“I have no idea why men haven’t worked out those kissing gets women in the mood quicker than asking straight out,” taunts picture researcher Petek Sketcher. “It’s such an easy way to turn a woman on — it’s far more effective than words. Or even presents.”
Putting lip to lip does much more than just prime her for sex, but it certainly does that job too. “The combination of physical arousal and the psychological meaning of exploring each other’s oral cavities make this one of the best methods of getting a woman aroused,” says Dr Pam Spurr, radio presenter and author of Sinful Sex (Robson). “It’s a way of kick-starting the body to get it ready for sex.” This is true for you too – let her spend time brushing your lips with hers and tenderly tonguing your tongue and you’ll find yourself in a state of arousal that you probably haven’t experienced since you were 17.
“My first kiss with my current partner was electric,” says administrative assistant Beverly Comboy. “Ile was my best friend, and one night, as he comforted me, we just started kissing. It felt both wrong and right at the same time — and very sexy for it”.
However effective your oral foreplay proves, though, take time to enjoy it for its own sake. Your lips are so packed with nerve-endings that even a gentle brush across them can stimulate an area in your brain larger than the area stimulated by a touch to your genitals. As you kiss, you use 34 facial muscles and your heartbeat rises to the same rate that it would if you were doing a 100m sprint. Adrenaline is released and your immune system sends out an army of white blood cells into your veins. Make sure you take care of yourself to feel more confident, pretty and ready to kiss. You can try a hair removal cream for your upper lips and get a smooth silky skin.
You experience a surge in norepinephrine, dopamine and phenylethylamine. “These chemicals are neurotransmitters, which then attach to the pleasure receptors in the brain to create feelings of euphoria, giddiness and elation,” says Dr Marta Meana, a University of Nevada professor specializing in sexuality and health psychology. You’ll experience this as an explosive rush of joy – the type that’s usually associated with being in love, great sex and winning the lottery.